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The pandemic and Kink

January 5, 2021 / posted in Article / No Comments

 

The past year plus, and yes, the Covid-19 pandemic officially started in a province in China in November of 2019, has been awful.  There is no other way to describe it, other than in even worse terms.  Those of us who saw what was coming because of knowledge of other disease events in our general memory, started to prepare and then hunker down as it started to touch off in disparate places in very short order.

Yes, there were runs on toilet paper, because the big paper mills were designed to supply the needs of sanitary products to workplaces, not the homes of the workers.  Yes, PPE, including disposable masks and gloves, became scarce, and still can be so because of the import structures imposed by the outgoing administration in the last 4 years, and not rebuilding our own territories after disasters.  Yes, supply chains were not just broken but crushed, showing the weakness of our global economy.

You may know of people who have had the disease, and the related syndromes that have been traced and tracked.  You might have had it yourself.  There are vaccines that have been produced, and treatments have been designed for those who have had to suffer through this.

It is not over.

I have been seeing people planning ‘we are over it’ gatherings, including Dungeon and Orgy parties.  For January.  For February.  For…  This is not only short-sighted, it is selfish.  But what other reaction can I expect from a society that has been expecting a Movie-style save in a self-centered and narcissistic nation?

As an aside, I would love one for late January for other reasons, after the deed is completely accomplished, but that is another matter.

Sex is messy.  Fetishes can be doubly so.  C-19 has been shown to be a sexually transmitted disease, as well as an airborne pathogen.  Health departments have been acknowledging that people who are horny need a release, and suggesting glory holes.  They have not been able to fully regulate masks and gathering limits, but bring up sex, and the male need always has an option.  For those of us in the ‘catching’ position, glory holes are less than glorious, no matter what the pornhub videos and sex games want you to think.  And, because people get horny, and people get reckless because of it, there are going to be more people infected as that isolation from sexual partners gets too hard to face.

Kink has helped.  Ball gag?  Put a mask over it and you can’t tell.  Have a gas mask hanging around?  It will seem odd, but most people will give a laugh at this point, not a side-eye.  Breaking out your medical play equipment?  Sharing your gloves and such with your circle is more than important, it will keep us alive.

Kink is physical, but it is first mental and emotional.  You cannot have a scene without first creating the scene.  With isolation and virtual presence starting to be the norm, creating environments for release is difficult, but with our biggest sex organ in full gear, it still can be satisfying.

Yes, I mean the brain, you perv.

At this point many of us have not been with our partners for months.  It will not get any better soon as the breakdown in distribution of medical essentials, including the various vaccines, is being further hindered by idiots who think the vaccines will recode our DNA or implant chips into our bloodstream.  If only those people would use that imagination to create a mental playground for us to use to get by, and perhaps satisfy our baser needs.  It is that base within us that should be addressed, not pushed to the side.  The build-up of frustrations, and not just sexual, can lead to horrific problems individually, and the explosion of mental and emotional shrapnel can take others with us when it happens.  To be able to use the virtual environment to assuage those frustrations includes being able to communicate our needs, and most Kinksters know how to do that, and should help those along who just are not getting it.

How to help others?  Be honest with yourself about what needs can be met in the Discord servers and Zoom chats and drag your friends in with you for audio and video debauchery.  There are people who have had ‘Show me your Dogs!’ video chats, why not ‘Show me your… Kitties”.  Use the technology we have to keep yourself and others safe so that in the future, you will be able to do those wonderfully nasty things you chat about.

See you in Chat. 😉 

Miss R

Adventures in Marketing

August 19, 2020 / posted in Article, Uncategorized / No Comments

Oh, The Horrors!

O.k. I have gotten that out. Mostly.

Here I am, a writer, a chef, a racecar driver, a Dom, and the pandemic has taken most of my creative interpersonal time away. I can cook, but I cannot be with the person I cook for, enjoying them savouring what I provided. I write and post, but I cannot go to my favorite Saturday writing spot to have copious amounts of coffee and conversation between typing random words. Racing? It seems like it would be safe, except, the paddock has people wandering all over, the Grid has the workers and drivers in a confined space, and what if there was need of an emergency vehicle?

And then there is being a Dominant. Yes, lots of that is mental and emotional, but without the physical contact, much of it lays flat.

SO, what do I do? I start yet another page on another website.

>insert forehead slap gif here<

You might have noticed, if you follow me on Twitter, Gays.com or other places, that I now have an OnlyFans page. Yup. This squishy, old, ffffff pale person now has started to put pictures up on another website. And, gasp, have people paying her for it! But, I made a mistake. I pushed to have a subscription form too early. I now know that once a subscription is in effect, people do not see the 'free' content.

>insert I Haz A Sad gif<

So, I have to actually market myself. I... Just don't know how to do that. I have a presence on many platforms, some vanilla, some not, but how to entice people to look at boobie pics?

>insert Dog Head Tilt gif<

I have years of pictures, and now have started to take more.  Past the modesty aspects(Me?) and to the technical aspects, Marketing is...  invasive at best.  I am not a Fortune 500 company that has people placing branded items in movies or billboards on Times Square.  I am not a person who likes getting 3 marketing emails ads a day from companies(looking at you, Overstock), so why would I send out that which annoys me?  I am not always UP and DOMLY and dressed in SKIMPY things, so I really cannot be ON whenever someone messages me if they seemed intrigued with something I posted.

I am happy to have a small following right now.  To make it so that I do not drain my base there, I need more people to look at and then find worthy of their finances to subscribe or tip.  As a moderate FinDom, I have a few people who have pledged to me or sent me tribute in the past, but I know everyone is having a TIME right now, and I don't need the income from the OnlyFans page, but I do want to reach more people so I can entice and titilate with my offerings.

>insert I See What You Did There gif<

So, I am posting on the various social networking sites I use, and have had some success.  I try to follow other peoples' modesty guidelines, for I have little for myself, and hope that what I do post gets them to at least check it out.  Hey, you came here and read this, didn't you?  And if you did, please give me a mention on the site you linked from.

 

Thank you for your time.

Miss R

Web Mistress of the Leathermines

>insert Bow Before Me gif<

 

 

Why Miss R is  a Dom

July 31, 2020 / posted in Article / No Comments
Miss R sitting, pointing to the floor

Good. Let's start. On your knees. Good Pet.

I call myself a Dom.  Not Domme, as many would prefer if they were showing as female.  I have a bit of a thing about the mispronunciation of Domme, as it is the same as Dom, not Dommy or other mispronunciation.

But that is not why I am in the position I am in.

When I was young, and finding that the various Kinks in BdSm were not just interesting, but what I wanted in my life, I had a very big stumbling block.  I am older than most people really think, and at the time I was exploring what sexuality and Kink were, the media was against what I was.

I am a larger woman.  Have been for most of my life.  When I was starting in the community, I was underage and precocious.  This meant I would just do things to find out what it was like and be thrilled to ‘get away with it’.  BUT!  I also had the background of research so I would read and watch the media available at the time to see what things were ‘supposed’ to be like.  In the late 70’s to early 80’s this was primarily really bad porn, Gay magazines, or popular culture.  I was hardly represented in any of these.

I finally found some magazines that had women of my similar shape.  Doing things that were like what I wanted to explore.  Unfortunately, all the women who were my proxy were the slaves.  And I mean slaves.  Not bottoms. Not subs.  The only way a fat girl could participate, according to the media I was able to find, was to be completely subjugated and used.

I believed it.

And, as it happens far too often, a man who had proclaimed himself as a Dom saw that I was exploring, and took advantage of me.  There were a few discussions, a few sessions, and I thought what he was doing was what I deserved.

There weren’t any negotiations.  Everything that was done skirted every piece of safety I have learned since.  Including the psychological component he used to keep me in my place.

He was an abuser.

The night I changed how I was going to interact with the Kink community was the night I walked away from him.  Physically walked away.  With only a bathrobe around me.

He let me think that being a woman, I could not be in charge.  He made me believe that being fat meant I could not make my own decisions.  He followed thru by subverting the trust I had with him.  That symbol I had around my neck, deniable if someone asked, burned with the oppression of his misguided hand.  I was a toy for him, and he tried to break his toy.

It was a night like some others.  I had been able to get out of the house without anyone noticing.  He picked me up in his vehicle.  We went to a new place.  I was told to go into the bedroom and get ready.  I went down to skin and collar, as his protocol demanded.  I knelt and waited.

This was the night he had brought others.  This was the night he had gone beyond all bounds and told me he was going to ‘share’ me.  There had not been a discussion.  I was told.

I was lucky.  I was able to make a small excuse to stand and go to the other room.  All my stuff was in that bedroom.  There was a bathrobe that I took.  I left the collar.  I walked home.

I was 16.

That night, as I was feeling the loss of something that had not been comfortable, but had been familiar, I changed.   I walked and thought, and cried, and yelled.  I changed how I saw people.  I tried to change how I saw myself.  It has been a battle even before that night, and it will always be a battle.

I am Miss R.  I am a Dom.  I will not let anyone unworthy hold my leash ever again, and I will always strive to be worthy to hold the leashes I am given.

BdSm and Abuse

April 26, 2020 / posted in Article, FAQ / No Comments

 

“Please!  Mistress, I want you to abuse me!” you keen, as you do not see the room through the blindfold of your own making.

No.

Kink is not abuse

I just saw another interaction on a social media outlet that raised my hackles.  I direct messaged one of the people and found, instead of a shattered, joyless slave, there was a bouncy, uplifted bottom who reveled in the public humiliation.  They thanked me for making sure they were o.k., and I backed off.  And, even though the initial interaction I saw was not ‘good’, I was happy that they were happy.

Why did I message them?  Because, as a Dominant and reluctant Elder, it is my duty to be aware of situations that could turn badly, and cut it off before it does so.  The only way to do that is to go to the person who seems to be abused and communicate with them.

“But!  Isn’t all BdSm kinkiness abuse?” I hear you mumble through your socially unaware gag.

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The development of fetishes

April 13, 2020 / posted in Article / No Comments

Kinks are part of our lives, whether we wish for them or not.  The human brain fixates on things.  It is how we develop and learn.  When things become a ‘chase’ for resources, those scarce things become a fixation, and can lead to some fetishes that might be hard to understand.

Throughout the ages, scarcity has led to fetishism of the scarce thing.  From the obvious ‘exotic’ people who are different from those you are used to being around, to items that are imported and as such are rare or things that used to be common, but because of adversity has become scarce.  The use of the rare thing has created fetishes throughout the centuries, some of which are quite bizarre.

For an example, because of rationing during the World Wars, food became quite an element in fetish play in Britain.  Smoshing raised in prominence for the use of the rationed food items that could be found, wasting them in a sexualized way.  The use of canned beans for sitting in, or spreading on feet combined several fetishes and made the rare thing, the rationed food, the star.

In the age of consumerism we are in, the Covid-19 epidemic has created another wave of scarcity.  I have already seen toilet paper pornography, emphasizing the non-standard use and waste of a thing we used to take for granted.  It has also raised the awareness of a few things that are tangental, such as infantilism with the use of adult diapers.  The human mind is associative, and the lack of something makes the need to have it a driving primal force, and that muddies its self with other primal needs, which makes for sexual associations and kinks with the thing we are striving to find.

The cleanliness that protecting ourselves needs to work has also led to ‘dirty’ and ‘bug chasing’ videos becoming more popular.  It isn’t the non-use of condoms I am talking about, it is a rash of amateur videos of people who say they have Covid-19 having sex with other people.  There have always been bug-chasers, but this one is being documented.  Not only is it dangerous, it is a way of mainstreaming that dangerous kink by having pretty people having sex for your entertainment.

In the future, there will be other things that are ‘exotic’ or become scarce.  Those will then fold into the fetishes that are already there, with unknown waves of use and knowledge to effect what we do with that kink.  We shall see.

Wash your hands.

Defining a Dom

February 28, 2020 / posted in Article / No Comments

The media gives a common vision of what someone who is Dominant does and is in todays society.  It is good to have a starting point that is common, but the compare/contrast on what a Dominant actually is and does is far more nuanced than the images of Lady Heather or Christian Grey we have been given.  How do we know who is Dominant if not with these common images?

To be Dominant, it takes knowledge and techniques to be able to showcase that dominance.  We see the leather, the lace, the whips and chains.  But, it would not work without the submissive in the relationship.  Everyone is different, and every Dominant/submissive relationship is different.  Yes, there is a penchant for dark humor and perhaps a little more giggling at others’ pain than is the median today, but, just like every interaction, the way a Dominant controls their submissive really is based on how that submissive allows themselves to be controlled.

Got you there, didn’t I.

It is the coin-sides of the Play we call Kink.  You cannot have one side without the other, and the commonality that binds them together.  You can have a simple D/s interaction just about anywhere without the obvious trappings we have come to expect.  It takes communication between the people involved before and during, and that is what the media just doesn’t let us see.  Without knowing the proper buttons to push, what makes it a good push, and what makes it a bad one, it will fall flat.  Talking before a session or interaction is how you explore how a Dominant can control the submissive with them.  Knowing that words have power, calling someone a sissy, may make them smile, it may make them get angry.  Depending on the reaction wanted, both are good.  It is the skilled Dominant that can use those reactions to push the submissive’s fantasy.

The physical techniques a Dominant uses, from Shibari rope work, through use of flogs and whips, to the ability to wrestle their submissive into a real submissive pose, are all flashy, and what people visually seek out.  In some circumstances, such as open play parties, just having the physical nature of Dominance on display is what is needed, and wanted.  It is what is beyond the snap of the whip and the hurting knees landing on the concrete floor that keeps a submissive coming back to a particular Dominant.  From the outside, it may all look the same.  From within the interaction, it can run hot, or cold.

How to define a Dom?  Someone who can control with a word, a look, a flick of a finger.  Because those are the things the submissive sees, and reacts to.

Kneel before me.  😉 

Miss R

Dealing with difficult scenes

December 30, 2019 / posted in Article / No Comments

A thought, just in time...

A scenario was presented to me today.

And ...  I am uncomfortable.

A little background.  The person I was talking to was offered an opportunity to do some role playing, which should wind up with them bonking.  There is a uniform, some possible bodice ripping…  And culturally charged situations.

I have made sure this is a freely offered situation, from the ripee to the ripper.  There may be a few things to learn before this session occurs, but that is not the big thing.  My mind is still working on how to approach coaching this young one so that they have a good time, and do not leave any lasting scars, inside or out.

When approaching something that could be considered taboo in regular society as a play space in the BdSm community, you have to be doubly aware of what is going on.  Consent is foremost, but giving consent beforehand can suddenly become a Red situation if not approached with communications and a butt tonne of research.

Playing with racial relations, complete ownership, and even cultural land mines like WWII Nazi role-play, the fantasy does not always meet reality.  Sometimes, reality will make a ‘simple’ scene become heart-rending and horrible.  Approaching your partner with such a way to play can change a relationship, forever.

I have danced around this, because it is not easy to openly say that people want scenarios that, in real life, would be horrifying to experience, but turns them on so hard they really want to do it.

Let me break down a few things here.  Let us look at this from three different perspectives, role-play, techniques, and aftercare.

Role-play

Fantasy is a tricky thing.  There are many ways for you to go into a fantasy.  It can be hard to know what part of the situation is the most important and cannot deviate, and what can be glossed over to be relegated into the soft focus of your memory.  To be able to role-play a fantasy, you need to be honest with yourself and your partner what parts of the fantasy are in what part of the spectrum.  Are you are going to need to talk about what it is like to call, or be called, derogatory terms that are essential for the scene, or is that too hard for one or the other of you to actually do?  Clothing that brings up a historical situation that, normally for you or your partner, would be right out, but in this situation is needed to get into head space for the fantasy?  The need for Props that are triggers for bad things to happen, but lead to good feelings when used in this fantasy?  This all can be covered in the role-play part of figuring out a delicate scene.

The fantasy is play acting out something that gets you off.  The dark fantasies that come with being raped, degraded, or having something in your past pulled out for a scene can be really hot, but only if you understand that it is just a fantasy.  Talk about what you want, and might expect.  If you are the Top in such a scene, you need to take the responsibility to keep your bottom from getting too deep into that head space, or freaking out because it gets too ‘real’.  Have your fun forcing your prisoner to put the condom on your cock before her head gets forced to go down on you, but make sure that a Safe Word or Safe Action has been set before that rooms’ door is opened.  If you think the shirt is supposed to be cut off, talk about it, and keep a bathrobe or sheet ready for when the scene is over.  Use your strength to overpower them as their role forces them to cower before you and soak it in, knowing that you both are going to get off on what is going on.

Techniques

If the role-play part of it is daunting, and race-play can be especially difficult if you have been brought up to not throw around names and epithets, concentrate on the techniques you may need to use in the scene.  Going to the basics can make any scene better, and does not rely on a script.

Practice BEFORE you play.  If you are to be interrogating someone, practice tying ‘things’ to a chair, as well as cheesy Noir P.I. lines.  Is your flogging up to snuff for disciplining your slave?  A pillow is a good subject to use, and will not tell anyone if it bruises.  Is part of the thing you have been asked to do involve knife play?  Learn how fabric cuts, tears and stretches before using the knife on a piece of clothing, and keep a first-aide kit close just incase there is a slip.  Think of anything that you may want to do in the scene, and become familiar with it, to the point of being comfortable, if you can.

Aftercare

The third thing, Aftercare, seems out of place, here, but this is not a fuck and leave situation.  If you do not make enough time to cool down afterwards, to make sure you and your partner are good with what just happened, then you should not do the scene at all.  Work back from the end of the night to the beginning.  Know what type of blanket your bottom uses to wrap themselves in to help bring themselves back to reality.  Make sure you have water or your favorite sports drink to rehydrate after, even if you think you aren’t going to be physical, you will have a heightened heart rate, which will make you sweat.  Have time to TALK.

Aftercare needs to happen for all participants.  Most people think only the bottom or sub needs to have the attention, but the Dom or Top needs just as much.  Remember, what happens is with all people involved- planning, activities, and the emotional strain, as well.  In a scene that has racial, taboo, or culturally sensitive overtones, that strain can be even more without you realizing it.  Aftercare is like dessert, and will only make the main course better, if you start on it first.

More on Aftercare here.

With these three ways to look at a sensitive or charged situation, I hope you can figure out how you might go at something that you are uncomfortable with and begin.

Have fun exploring your darker fantasies.

 

Miss R

Allergies and BDSM Play

December 7, 2019 / posted in Article, FAQ / No Comments

It is all fun until...

 

Several years ago, I had a client who had progressed to play that included Golden Showers.  The Dungeon at the time had a space with an open shower and toilet, and he had shown that he was earnest in his desire to Play that way.  It is a time I remember fondly.  Until I almost sent him to the hospital.

I have a waiver and questionnaire that I have all of my in-person clients fill out.  It is not unusual, as the intense nature of BDSM play can be dangerous, and a knowing, and willing, client is always preferable.  Part of the questionnaire is a medical disclosure form, basic, but covers things that could make some scenes dangerous if not taken into consideration.  I assumed at the time that the client had filled it out accurately.

I no longer assume that.

That day, there was a bit of wax play, some flogging and it segued into the shower for the wet part of the session.  It was fun, and it was sexy… until I saw he was starting to have problems breathing.  I stopped the session, tried rinsing him off where a rash was starting and also tried to get him to tell me how he was feeling.

I finally was able to pry out of him that he couldn’t breathe, he was itchy and he was feeling just unwell.  It clicked for me and I made him take some antihistamines.  And we called his emergency contact.

Let me back up.

About a week before, I started having UTI symptoms.  It happens.  So, I pushed fluids in the form of cranberry juice, choked down goldenseal and manganese and had a full prescription of antibiotics.  I was still taking the pills when I met my client.

There was nothing in his medical questionnaire about being allergic to the antibiotics I was taking.  In fact, when I rechecked, he hadn’t put anything in about an obvious scar on his leg, too.  He failed as a client and a sub.  I failed as his Dom for not making sure.

Along with other research I do for other portions of my life, I started looking into absorption rates and such for not only the pills I was taking, but of other medications.  It is scary how much just does not get absorbed in most medications when taken in pill form.  And it is also scary the scant amount it takes to make someone react when there is an allergy.

Keeping my horrific story in mind, you or your play partner may react during a session because of a sensitivity or allergy to anything.  Most of the time, you won’t even know that the slight headache or redness is a reaction at the time.  If you have mild symptoms, it can be easy to overlook.  Any severe allergy needs to be kept in mind for any play and worked around.

The things you do not think about until too late are what can ruin a situation.  Allergy to shellfish?  You may react to red cosmetics or dye with carmine as it’s base. Your partner has food allergies?  Make sure you don’t eat it for several days before you let them eat your ass.  Latex allergies?  Gloves, condoms, dildoes and more are available in other materials.  Bee allergy?  Some people are so sensitive that even beeswax candles can set it off.  Even using a lotion with wheat derivatives can make a Celiac uncomfortable and then fully react in the time you have them bound and suspended.

If you have an allergy or sensitivity, make sure you keep your medicines in your play bag.  Know your body.  And if you play with someone who has an allergy, keep an extra set of meds with you, and know how to use all of it, up to and including an Epi-Pen.  Keep a list of emergency contacts for yourself and your partner in your bag, too, just in case.  Know how to deal with things, and when to call in for help.  Emergency personnel have seen it all, so don't worry about that.  Medical play is a great thing, but please make sure you know what you are doing in a real medical emergency.

Playing with our fantasies in a BdSm situation is wonderful.  Keep in mind that fantasy can be smashed when reality takes your ability to function because of a medical issue.  As a Dom, it is a responsibility, and a privilege, to take care of both.

See you in the Bennadryl aisle.

Miss R

The Leathermines.com

The Pink Tax in Kink

October 23, 2019 / posted in Article, Uncategorized / No Comments

The Pink Tax in Kink

October is here, the pink lights are lighting the way through the pink streets with the pink tools being used to garden in the pink yards…

What it meant is not what it has become. And the ‘Save The Boobies’ mantra does not make it better.
As a Female Dominant, I have had both an uphill battle and an easy glide through the levels of the Kink community over the years. There is a pressured need to prove, physically, emotionally, and especially in the role-play, with potential submissives. The need to have The Image from the first time I am seen, and continue that throughout a session, or relationship. And that Image is easy to hide behind, but hard to pull away from. It is tiring.
Don’t get me wrong, I love leather. And lace. And rope. And most things that are not of the main stream. But it is also a form of pidgin holing that has been consistent even as other things in the Kink community becomes more open. And Equal.

And less dipped in Black Leather.

Kinky things in pink

A selection of pink kinky implements, including a pink polka dot paddle, pink handcuffs and a pink star shaped crop.

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Definitions in BDSM: Cute Quips and why they are wrong

August 2, 2019 / posted in Article / No Comments

Definitions in BDSM: Cute Quips and why they are wrong

There are some cute shirts and bumper stickers that some of my subs and clients have offered me over the years.  Tribute is always welcome, but sometimes I find it hard to accept things with sayings on them.  Yes, I am a Pro-Dom.  That does not mean I fit into any of the media stereotypes, and as such the t-shirts, even though cute, go unworn.  Let me explain.

The beatings will continue until morale improves.  This is a cute saying, and most of the time there is a pirate theme to it.  Yay pirates.  It is also goes against several of my personal rules.  If I am in a bad mood, I don’t play with people.  I do not take out my frustrations on someone, even if they are willing.  It is not fair to them, or myself, and can lead to not seeing limits before I trample over them.  If someone else is in a bad mood, I will hold off on giving a good flogging or such until I know why they are in a bad mood, and if getting beaten upon will really make them feel better.  Most of the time, it will not.

If I wanted your opinion, I would have beaten it out of you.  Um, no.  That is abuse, plain and simple.  I have relationships where it may look like I disregard the other person, but that is consensual with discussions where others cannot see them.  Abusing someone for my own pleasure is not right, even though it may look like that is what I am doing.  If I do not treat my sub with respect, they will not be my sub much longer.

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but whips and chains excite me.  O.k..  This one is cute.  I still don’t wear anything with that on it because, well, they don’t.  It is the person I am with and what we do that excites me, not the objects that are used.  Others are object-oriented and I understand this, but not everyone who is into the BdSm lifestyle is into whips and chains and the pain that they represent.  There is more to explore, and I like to start with the sensual and work my way up from there.

Ouch is not a Safeword.  Um, yes it is.  Cute, until you think about it.  Not everyone has a pain tolerance and while I am in session with someone, I will take ouch as a Safeword.  Yes, there is the Red/Yellow/Green standard, but not everyone uses it, and not everyone gets up to that point.  It is all in the negotiations.

Queen Bitch/Bitch Goddess.  Some days, it is appropriate.  It is also offensive to me.  Why would I wear a shirt that tells people I have an attitude that I might not feel right then?  I am very open with what I am and what I do, but I do not need to have a 10 year old turn to his Mother and ask what it means in public.  Yes, I do somethings to shock, but wearing swear words is not one of them.  This goes for inappropriate names for female genitalia, offensive sexist pidgin-holing titles and just downright rude sayings.  But that is me.

Mistress.  Well, this one is one that I do like, but to offer to give me something that says Mistress on it is presumptive.  I want to get to know someone before I let them call me Mistress.  Having a t-shirt that says it as a gift assumes a relationship that just might not be there.

These are only a few of the things I have been offered over the years.  Yes, they can be cute, but think about what they really mean, and who you would want to really wear them before spending the money.  For me, start at the toes and work up and we will see what of the sayings is appropriate.

Have fun and I’ll see you at the Mall.

Miss R from the Leathermines.

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