the Leathermines

Scene Etiquette: Arriving at your Pro-Dom

You have the time and date set.  You know where you are to meet.  The day comes and...?

Be nervous.  It’s o.k..  Fulfilling your fantasies can be nerve-wracking, but a great thing to do.  Just don’t let your attentions take you away from properly attending to your Domme.  Keep these things in mind and your time with your Dominant will go well.

Take a shower.  This might sound odd, but make sure you are clean.  Wash everything and do not put on huge amounts of cologne or body spray.  Your play may not involve taking your clothes off, but it is still good to be clean when you arrive so you do not offend your Pro-Dom.  You may be sent away never to be played with again by being stinky and unkempt.

Have your payment ready.  When you were in negotiation with your Pro-Dom for their services, it should have been made clear how the tribute would be given.  If not, cash is always good.  Do not try to hold back or re-negotiate when you see your Domme, you will be laughed at and sent away.

Allow yourself enough time.  Do not try to schedule too many things in the day you are seeing your Dom.  Do not squeeze Her in between meetings and appointments.  Give yourself at least an hour after the session is supposed to end to be able to gather yourself up and come back into reality.  Driving while under the influence of sub-space can be deadly.

Arrive on time.  Or early.  There is nothing more annoying than to be dressed and ready for a client who shows up half an hour late for a one hour session.  If you cannot be there on time, try to contact your Pro-Dom and be honest as to why you are being late.  If you are going to be very late, you may need to reschedule, you lost your guarantee deposit, and their good humor.  If you are meeting at a location you chose, make sure it is open and you are there to escort her in when she arrives.

Have your toy bag.  Have your favorite toys with you for the scene you negotiated.  Make sure they are clean and in good working order.  When you get there, offer to lay out the items you brought so that your Domme may see what you have, but do not expect them to be used.  Your scene may not use the items you brought, but most Dominants love using different toys on their submissives.

If you were given specific commands, such as shaving or wearing certain items, do it.  Showing that you can follow directions and are willing to play in the way your Dom does makes it easier to ask for another session, and have it accepted.  If you cannot do a specific thing, be honest as to why before you arrive at your session.  Do not disrespect your Pro-Dom by not following what you are told.  That will not lead to punishment in the form you wish, it will just piss Her off.

Make sure before you arrive how your Pro-Dom works the start of a scene.  Ask if it starts when you meet or if there will be a set-up time.  Different Doms have different ways of dealing with a scene, so know before you arrive.  If you don’t know, assume it starts as soon as you see them.

Know your Safe Word.  Your Dominant should ask you what it is at the beginning.  If not, use the stop-light method and call out ‘RED’ when you are pushed beyond your limits.

Every Dominant is different, but this should keep you from pissing off yours and letting you enjoy your time.  Let the play happen and follow directions.

Have fun and I’ll see you at the other end of the flog.

Miss R from the Leathermines.