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Miss R’s quick tips for Pro Doms

August 2, 2019 / Miss R posted in Article / No Comments

Miss R's quick tips for Pro Doms

I have been in and out of the Pro Dom thing for many years. It depends on what is happening in my life, and how my social life is doing. That sounds odd, but if I am doing well socially, I am doing well as a Pro Dom.

There are a few things I have picked up over the years that help me in my day to day dommish things. I hope that this is not too rambling.

Get a membership in a 24 hour gym. One with many locations and affiliates is better. A 24 hour gym allows you to clean up and change before or after a session without having to go home. Or use the client’s facilities if it was not part of the negotiated scene. If you had to travel a ways, having a gym that can let you use their water to clean up is a good thing.

Along with a gym membership, have your workout bag with you if you can when you go to a session. Keep an extra set of clothes with you, like a long dress or scrubs. You can throw this on or over what you are wearing to keep decent, or to get into something clean, even if you are not using the gym.

Be open about where you are going to the people you live with or who care about you. Have a check-in time to let them know you are good and safe. Having to lie or cover up what you are doing never works out.

Know what you are doing, and along with that, do not be afraid to say you do not have experience in something. If you do not know about an activity, look it up, research it and let your gut tell you whether or not you are willing to do it. Be careful and-

Don't be afraid to say, "No." It is not worth your health, life or reputation to let yourself be forced into something you don't wish to do. Be straight forward with who you are dealing with, as in, try not to couch things in too many qualifiers such as 'maybe', 'perhaps' or 'I'm not sure'. This leads to pushiness on the client's part which can lead you into doing things you shouldn't.

Have a backup plan. No matter what you are doing, plan on an alternative. If you are traveling to the other side of town to see someone and they either don't show up or it doesn't work out, know a place you can hang out at for a while to make the trip worth it. If you plan on doing one type of scene, make sure you can do a different one without the key items needed for the planned scene. Have a plan on getting home or to a safe place if your transportation fails you. Always have a plan B.

Know others in the Pro part of the scene. There are times when you may need to get out from under an appointment, or a client. Being able to refer to another Pro is a good fallback. You can set up 'Double Dom' sessions and get referrals back, too.

Allow yourself to have time to deal with the mental, emotional and physical aspects of your own Aftercare. Aftercare is important for your client, but if you don’t take care of your own needs, you will burn out or be unsafe to be with your clients. You are a professional, but the does not mean you are a machine. Understand that a good scene or interaction has impacts on your psyche as much as the bad ones do. Try not to let bad scenes, and the aftermath, overwhelm you. Know that you will get through it, and onto the next thing or client. It just may take a bit to balance yourself.

There are many other things that being a Pro Dom entails. This is but a small portion go the things I have learned over the years.

Go out and make the world kneel. I’ll bring the floggs.

Miss R from The Leathermines

The Slave Lady Chapter 37

July 30, 2019 / Miss R posted in Chapter Book, Stories / No Comments

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It had already been a long day. Some intrigue, some sex, some good things, some bad things. But it was almost time for evening meal and Laun could not back out of it.

A servant had scratched on the door and had come in when Laun called, “Enter.”

He was not surprised that Laun was in bed, but he was taken aback when there was someone in the bed with her. He delivered the message that evening meal would be in the Great Hall in about an hour. He left, closing the door quietly.

Laun found the privy again after some searching for the hidden door. She would need more supplies soon in there and she found where the moisture had come from. She looked up and saw that there was a small water stain on the ceiling of the small room right above where the paper had been. That was something to be dealt with, later.

Laun tried to brush her hair out with the small brush and comb that was on the vanity in the bedroom. It was not the set from Ithian, which she both liked and didn’t like. It did not want to go through her hair and her arms were getting tired trying to make it work. She untied the thong from around her wrist and wrapped it around her hair, making a low tail that at least kept it out of her face. »Read More

The Slave Lady Chapter 36

July 24, 2019 / Miss R posted in Chapter Book, Stories / No Comments

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Music now was echoing through the halls. Laughter and joy bounced around in voice and in bodies as the troupe ran and tumbled and sang in the long halls of the manor.

Laun had asked Del if there was some sort of a great hall or feast hall somewhere in the maze of the Hawkwell manor. He nodded and, with the medic and healer and their people trailing behind discussing Laun’s pigheadedness, Dell escorted Laun and her people into a place close to the middle of the manor.

It was a space that was almost as big as the Great Hall back in Salam-Dir. It had not been opened for over a year and the dust and cobwebs showed quite well in the afternoon light streaming through the high windows. There were tables stacked on one side of the room, benches and a few chairs on the other. The Midlands and Hawkwell banners hung at either end of the room above small fireplaces that had been large at one time. There were remnants of fire-logs in the ash, evidence that the flue had not been pulled closed on one of the chimneys with the dried arc of ash and char on the polished stone floor, bird tracks in trails pointing towards the fireplace.

A bench was brought over for Laun and she sat, happy to be off her feet. She sneezed, putting the too long sleeve over her nose and mouth.

“This is good. I know I keep asking for more from you, but I am tired of not having a central place to meet people.” »Read More

The Slave Lady Chapter 35

July 19, 2019 / Miss R posted in Chapter Book, Stories / No Comments

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The courtyard was barely more than grey with the morning light when Laun was up and doing her morning exercises. She had left the other two sleeping on the bed and had put more covers over them. She had suddenly awoken and could not get back to sleep. There was nothing wrong, with the room or herself, she just was awake.

Laun’s lower back was feeling twitchy. She had not been doing her morning routines as religiously and her body was telling her about it. She stretched, using the wall of the courtyard to prop her self up with. Her legs were stretched and she tried to gently twist to see if it was her spine that needed to be realigned. Nothing popped, so she went back to stretching and moving to relax things.

She tried to do one of the open hand katas, flowing as much as she could, but again, her back was threatening to go out and she found she was not doing things the way she really needed to be doing them. She switched to another form and could tell within a few steps that it was not coming out right.

She just let her arms swing as she stood there in the courtyard, her eyes closed as she felt and listened to her body. She started to move slow and found a few movements that did not seem to trigger her back. She built on those, feeling the dirt under her feet as she turned, the dry air on her skin as her arms went through motions similar to pulling a bow.

It was not a true form, but she felt her heart beat raise and her breathing deepen. She needed to keep some of her morning form, even if it was just to focus her mind. »Read More

The Slave Lady Chapter 34

July 16, 2019 / Miss R posted in Chapter Book, Stories / No Comments

Back to Chapter 33 - Just introduced to the World of Anachron? Start with the first book, first chapter, of The Slave Warrior.

It was night and Laun was restless. She felt some better than she had that afternoon, but she was more tired of being in the room than was depressed.

She wore the light tunic still on the end of the bed and put on the woolen slippers. Gem was asleep in the bed and Laun had not heard anything from either of the watcher holes since she had talked with Del. Laun made sure she peed before she left the room and went to explore some.

She went partway to the kitchens, but instead of going towards what she knew, she turned the other way down the hall. It was dark, but there were night lanterns lit at most corridor crossings. Down the way, there were doors and another crossing, letting her have light from behind her and in front.

Laun stopped at each door and listened. She decided that if she did not hear anything, she would try to open the door. She did not hear anything at any of the doors. Only one of the five doors in that piece of corridor opened.

It was some sort of supply room. There were stacks of shelves lining the room, a window across from the door letting in some light from a moonlit courtyard. Laun ran her hands along the surfaces of what was on the shelves.

She felt leather. She felt something smooth and metallic. There were buckles and straps. She pulled and a partially put together warriors harness came off the shelf. It was the lower harness and it was for quite a tall person. She put it back and went to another shelf.

She felt her way around finding mostly fighting supplies. She stood at the window, looking out on yet another neglected courtyard. There was strong moonlight showing the skeletons of trees against the grey of the night. She could not see the moon, but she could feel how the light made her feel slightly happier. »Read More

The Slave Lady Chapter 33

July 10, 2019 / Miss R posted in Chapter Book, Stories / No Comments

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Days had gone by. Laun now knew the way to the main kitchen without escort. She also could get to the Library and the front receiving entrance without too many lost turns. She was trying to build on that, opening doors that would open, looking through windows to know what it was positioned by in the estate.

Laun had switched to wearing mainly just her halter and a loose tunic as she wandered the manor. She didn’t even bother with slippers, though that could have been dreadful when she came across a broken window in one of the outside enclosed walkways. It went on her list of things that needed to be fixed, later.

She had started to do just stretches in the dusty courtyard in the mornings. She did not feel like her body would stand up to full forms and be able to continue to reorganize and clean the manor. The dust was thick, except for in the area right outside her door. Laun used the area only for her morning exercise. She needed green and growing and living things around her. »Read More

The Slave Lady Chapter 32

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“I want it unlocked.”

Laun was not raising her voice. She was not being threatening. She was being firm in her request.

The servant was several steps away from Laun and had his eyes on the ground. “Lady, I have my orders-”

“And you are going to make a pregnant woman sit on her ass with nothing to do day in and day out?”

He opened his mouth and closed it again. He nodded and had the keyring under his tabard. He unlocked the door to the courtyard and opened the door. It took a little effort as it had not been opened for a while. A wave of outside heat came in and Laun could smell the dust from the courtyard.

Laun smiled. “Thank you.”

He bowed slightly, looking nervous. “My duty, Lady.” »Read More

The Slave Lady Chapter 31

June 24, 2019 / Miss R posted in Chapter Book, Stories / No Comments

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Gem had pitying looks from some of the servants as she went to see what could be had for dinner. She played it up, holding her arm as she was escorted to the kitchens again. She was glad to have the escort as the building had been added onto so often that it was difficult to keep track of all the levels, hallways and doors from one place to another.

It was a skeleton crew at the estate. Even with the few servants sent from the Palace, there seemed to be just a few people here and there doing the jobs of dozens. In the kitchen there seemed to be just two.

Gem came into the kitchen with her escort to see the two people there wrestling with an oversized leg of meat. They didn’t seem to know which way either of them was going and seemed to be dropping it more than moving it.

“Hey! The Lady wants dinner. Is she going to get any?” The household servant yelled and waved his arms to get the other servants attention.

“We only had a day to get ready! We still have some of the bread from a few days ago and some preserves, but, if she wants anything else, she is going to have to wait for it like the rest of us.” The harried servant was smeared with blood from the meat they were manhandling.

“Look,” the servant who had escorted Gem stepped towards the two kitchen people and lowered his voice. “She has a bitch of a mistress and I don’t want to send her back without something.” »Read More

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The Slave Lady Chapter 30

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It seemed empty. The last time Laun was there, there had been a tent city filling the landscape.

Laun pulled back the curtain and looked out on a grassy set of low hills. It was peaceful as if there had never been any trouble. There was even a large pond or small lake glinting in the distance. Laun could hear geese somewhere close.

There was a small welcoming party from the main house near the entrance marker to the Hawkwell lands. Laun saw Captain Leon talking to several people in the dark colors before motioning for the group to follow. The carriage lurched forward and Laun held onto the strap anchored in the wall of the cabin to keep from falling into the footwell.

Laun was helped out at the same place she had been helped out of a carriage a year before. She was escorted through the same receiving hall with the same murals. This time, she purposely stopped and looked at them. Yes, she was a Hawkwell. Yes, Tressa and she looked remarkably alike, but the resemblance between Laun and Falmir now was even more striking. She did see that the portrait had been done many years before. Falmir now had grey in his brown hair and lines between his eyebrows. Or, perhaps, it had been the year of governing that had done it.

Laun saw familiar things as she was escorted through the halls. To a familiar room. »Read More

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