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| Q: |
Why do you have a Pay Site? |
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I am a capitalist - and a Pro Domme needs tribute to keep her Dungeon
running... |
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| Q: |
How can I pay for my Site membership? |
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I use Pay Pal for the membership - I only
see the email address you put in, nothing else. Everything else is
protected by the Pay Pal privacy policy and your cc statement only
shows 'LM inc' for the charge...
I do accept other tribute - check the tribute page on
my site. |
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Do you have a real Dungeon? |
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Yes, I do. The location of it is private and is by appointment only.
I do charge for face to face sessions and the tribute I expect is
no less than $250 per session. Other tribute
will be considered if proposed. The Session occurs after an intense
interview process has happened, including at least one face to face
meeting to go over the questionnaire and waiver. Download the waiver
(PDF) if you are interested. |
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| Q: |
I see you in the chat room... Can I see your cam? |
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The short answer is, "No."
The long answer includes things like I am probably in public and many of the networks I use do not have the bandwidth for cams. Also, I like to have some control over the cam, for some reason.
Any other Chat or Cam questions
are answered on their own pages. |
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| Q: |
Wow, you have really long hair! How long have you been growing
it? |
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I have long hair? Wow, I guess I do...
But really - I have been growing it all my life...
Many of the pictures on the site are from before I cut my hair. It is currently short, red and fabulous. I miss that long hair, but it is so much easier that before. I still enjoy having my hair brushed...
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What is a Dominatrix? |
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Well, there are as many answers to that as there are Dommes.
There are the stereotypical black leather and chain clad women who
tie and beat up men, but there are also those who prefer to be softer
and have their bodies worshiped
and pampered by toga wearing servants. Almost anything can be the
image of a Domme.
Sometimes, I like to see how far I can push a sub. There are many
ways to push the boundaries that a sub has. Physical is just one
of them. I like to see how long a sub can survive without talking.
I like to stand a sub in the corner and have them hold a peice
of paper to the wall with their forehead. I really like seeing
a sub squirm as I take them out shopping, with them wearing fetish
gear under their street clothes. I have a wicked sence of fun,
and am willing to unleash it, especially on a leashed sub. That
is the type of Domme I am. |
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| Q: |
What does a Domme, as you call yourself, do? |
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It depends on the situation and the person, or people, I am with.
I would not dress a guy up in drag and take him bar-hopping if he
came to me for a simple spanking. For the most part, I consider what
I do a physical type of therapy and education. I can do things and
go places in people’s minds that cannot happen in a regular
therapy session. |
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| Q: |
Why do you call yourself a Domme? |
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It is a more generic term than Dominatrix. There are both men and
women who take the dominant roll, and so it is quite sexist to refer
to the Dominant
as a Dominatrix. The person with the reigns may not fit that label. I use Domme,
the feminine version of the non gender specific Dom. |
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| Q: |
Are you Bi? |
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Personally, yes. I do not have regularly scheduled sex with women,
but I am not unfamiliar with it. It helps, actually. There are some
women who wish to
take the submissive role, but cannot bring themselves to submit to a man. Occasionally,
I Dom couples, too. Usually, it is a case of someone to direct them, but sometimes
I help them to learn how to Top and bottom with each other. |
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| Q: |
There are terms you have been using I do not understand.
What do they mean? |
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Terms like Top and bottom, Dom and sub, Safe Word, Play Party and
such are terms that grew out of necessity. There are different definitions
for them, depending
on the group, but these are the definitions I use:
• Top: the person who takes control
• bottom: the person who gives control.
• Dom: The person who directly has the leash,
and balls, of the bottom or sub.
• Sub: subtly different from a bottom in that
they have control ‘taken’ from them.
It is all consensual, or at least it should be. When things get to
much, we use safewords to stop, or
slow down, the action. |
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| Q: |
Consensual? What I have seen before doesn’t
seem to be consensual. |
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It has to be. The most important thing is safety, mental as well
as physical. If something you know feels good suddenly doesn’t
as you are doing it, the play should stop so you and your partner can
talk about it. Communications
are paramount. |
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| Q: |
But- Aren’t there rape scenes and
severe bondage involved with your activities? |
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There can be, but everybody, every scene is different. Intense scenes
involving brutal, forced action, such as rape, are always discussed
at length before anything
happens. And if something goes wrong, it is neither the Dom’s or the sub’s
fault. It just wasn’t right at that point, or issues came up as the scene
progressed that had not been talked about. It can always be tried again, if they
want to. Otherwise, move on and try something else. It is important to talk after
a scene, too. |
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| Q: |
You have mentioned talking and communications often,
why? |
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If the largest sex organ is not involved and turned on, there is
no point in continuing. The brain controls how we perceive and interact
with our situations, the scenes. If you do not ask someone if they
like an action, you cannot know if their reaction will be good,
or bad. As a Professional Domme, I try to look at many aspects of
a sub’s personality, background and psyche before going into
a full session with them, going through an intence interview process
to do so. This has avoided physical incompatibilities, such as knowing
of joint problems that counter indicate severe bondage, as well
as mental/emotional problems, such as phobias that might make the
sub panic if not attended to properly.
As far as communications go, Miss R has a specific way of identifying
the wants and needs of her clients. Miss R goes by a theory of how
to recognize the different levels and boundaries of fantasy, reality
and intimacy. She classifies the experiences by how far they can
go.
• Frontiers are the experiences that
are totally new, even with fantasizing about it. It is wide open for
exploration, never knowing what may occur. You may have stumbled upon
a wide open frontier just by coming to this site.
• Boundaries are pliable things, depending
on the situation, the people around and how one is feeling. A boundary
that allows for an action one day may change drastically the next day.
This is right, reasonable and should be respected.
• Limits are things that are definite ‘do
not pass’ lines of emotional/mental demarcation. These also can
change, but if someone says NO, they mean it. These can change as familiarity,
trust and guidance happen, but it should not be pushed.
• There is a term in the scientific
community called an Event Horizon. This is when the start of a chain
reaction is set off by a certain action or reaction. Emotionally, there
are event horizons waiting for each of us, waiting for the right catalyst.
Sometimes these are known events, like being able to fix a leak after
getting the right tools, sometimes it is an unknown or subconscious
chain reaction set off by an event horizon produced by a fantasy, or
a bad memory.
Rules are necessary. Rules are there to be followed. Rules are there
to keep you from being hurt unnecessarily. When there are rules
given to you from Miss R, follow them to the best of your ability.
It is not wise to break rules set to you: punishment is not kindness,
it is discipline. If you like to push the restraints of rules, be
wary. You will be brought back into line - quickly and without remorse.
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Read through the Fact Sheets. Some are basic overviews, some have a more indepth
look into a subject. If you have any questions, please contact Miss
R.
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